It's funny how life and time work together.
With a significant about of time, (a day, month, year, etc.) life and the things within it, change.
The seasons change.
School years always come to an end.
You get taller.
You deal with whatever curveballs life may throw at you.
All while still growing in age, body, and wisdom.
People learn from change.
Whether they like it or not.
Time passes.
Growth happens.
Life adjusts.
Repeat Cycle.
As the seasons in our life change, so do we.
People are shaped by their decisions, experiences, religion, and people they spend the most time with. I believe that God places certain people in your life for seasons; it may be for a short time or a long while, but it is still a season. From every situation, good or bad, we are shaped and able to learn from what we experience. I've gone through a lot and I guarantee there are people who've experienced a much greater deal of pain than I have, but what I've learned is that when you take the negatives and turn them into positives, a person can help one's self as we as others.
Friends are supposed to be there through these times in our lives.
Friend: (noun) A person one knows, likes, and enjoys being with; someone who supports a group, cause, movement, or person.
The sad part is, in the world we live in, you see very few people who fit this profile.
People are selfish.
Ignorant.
Liars.
Gossipers.
Untrustworthy.
Why?
Because people have faults because we live in a corrupt world.
I've been hurt too many times to count when it comes to friendships going south and because of this I'm extremely selective with my friend choices. Even then, still sometimes people will surprise you with their actions and words.
Through the years I've discovered it is best to be friends with people who build you up rather than bring you down. Personally, I'm close with a few people whom I support their moral decisions. Other people I may be friends with at a distance depending on the choices they make. I'm not a fan of fake people. I don't deal well. I'd rather you be the same person in every setting…that's what I strive to do myself. It isn't worth my time or effort to be friends with you if you aren't showing me who you really are. Does that mean I don't have a lot of friends? Absolutely, but I feel quality is better than quantity anyday.
Even with these boundaries, it is still possible to get hurt.
Why?
Because God is the ONLY person who will NEVER leave you or forsake you.
I've learned that the hard way.
When your friend ditches you for other people. Rude.
When you're gossiped about by people you trust. Betrayal.
When you make back up plans because your friend always bails. Pathetic.
When you boyfriend cheats on you with close friends or family. Knife in the heart.
When your friend stops talking to you to become popular. Shallow.
When your friend moves without telling you. Selfish.
When your friend chooses alcohol, weed, drugs, or sex over you. Addiction.
When your friend dates the guy you like. Competition.
When guys get close to you in order to date your best friend. Used to it.
Are these situations real? Yes.
Do they suck? Absolutely.
Does it hurt? Sometimes.
But like a million other people in this world, we are used to it and desensitized to it.
Have I learned from it? Heck ya.
Would I change any of it? Never.
Without these experiences, I wouldn't be the person who I am today.
Without those friends, I wouldn't know the things I know now.
Do I know where those people are now?
No. Well, some of them.
Do I wish them ill-fortune? Absolutely not.
But in this season of my life, now these people are all just somebody that I used to know...
